As a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy, you are the only person who can decide what is best for your baby. But if your family members, your baby’s father, or other people in your life have strong opinions about what you “should” do, how do you know the decision you are making is truly yours?
If you are considering your unplanned pregnancy options, here are some steps you can take to ensure you are making a fully informed decision — not being pressured to make a choice that isn’t best for you and your baby.
- Know the facts. Do careful research and learn the facts about all of your options. Try to gain a realistic understanding of adoption, abortion and parenting and the impact your choice may have on your life as well as your child’s.
- Consider your circumstances. Think about your current circumstances and future goals. Consider which of your options could best help you achieve the type of life you want for yourself and your baby.
- Ask for support. It may be helpful to confide in a trusted friend, family member, or anyone else who you feel will respect you, listen to your thoughts and provide their support without pressuring you into making a certain decision. Just remember that while it can be helpful to lean on friends and family during this emotional time, no one can tell you what is best for you and your baby.
- Contact a professional. Seek out ethical professionals who can give you the information you need without pressuring you to make a choice that isn’t right for you. You can contact an adoption professional at any time to learn more about your options, with no obligation to proceed with an adoption plan. These professionals can also point you to additional resources if you are considering abortion or parenting.
- Make your decision. After looking at all of the facts, considering your own circumstances and beliefs, and seeking support from trusted friends, family members and professionals, it will ultimately be up to you to make the choice that is best for yourself and your baby. If you are considering adoption for your baby, know that your decision does not become final until you sign the legal consent paperwork after he or she is born. Also know that if your consent is obtained under fraud, duress or coercion, you may be able to revoke your consent and have your parental rights reinstated.
There are many factors to take into account when making an adoption, abortion or parenting decision — but others’ opinions do not have to be one of them.
As an adoption attorney, part of Kevin Kenney’s job is to help you explore all of your options and give you the unbiased information you need to ensure you feel confident with your decision and understand your rights through every step of the process.
If you are considering adoption for your baby in Kansas or Missouri, you can contact Kevin at any time for more information, confidentially and with no obligation to proceed with an adoption plan.