Many women find themselves in your shoes at a time when parenting simply isn’t the best option for them. If you feel you are not ready to be a parent or unable to raise another child, you may be considering abortion vs. adoption.
You are the only person who can decide what is best for you and your baby. As an attorney, Kevin Kenney’s job is not to persuade you to choose one option over the other. However, with 20 years of experience working with expectant mothers in your situation, he can provide some information that may help you make a more educated decision.
In this article, find the information you need about adoption vs. abortion so you can make the best, most informed choice possible for yourself and your baby.
How Abortion and Adoption are Similar
In many ways, abortion and adoption may seem like complete opposites. However, they actually do have a few things in common:
- Both are alternatives to parenting. Whether you choose adoption or abortion, you will not be rushed into raising a child before you are ready.
- Both are emotional processes. And each of these processes can be emotionally challenging. While these challenges may be somewhat different, neither choice is “easy.”
- Both allow you to continue to pursue your educational and career goals. You won’t have to put your future plans on hold to raise a child.
- Both are your decision to make. Whether you are being pressured by your family members, friends, the baby’s father, pro-life or pro-choice organizations, pro-adoption or anti-adoption advocates, no one can tell you what is best for yourself and your baby.
The Differences Between Abortion vs. Adoption
It is estimated that for every 149 women who choose abortion, only one chooses adoption. This ratio is startling, and is due in part to the misinformation women receive about adoption and abortion. Abortion is often seen as a quick, painless, easy solution to an unplanned pregnancy — but this simply isn’t the case.
If you are struggling to decide between adoption and abortion, you should first do your research and learn as much as you can about your options. Here are some of the facts about adoption vs. abortion that will help you make a fully informed decision:
- Adoption is an alternative to parenting, while abortion is an alternative to pregnancy. Obviously, a significant difference between adoption and abortion is the pregnancy and childbirth experience. Women who choose adoption will carry the pregnancy and deliver the baby, while abortion terminates the pregnancy long before the baby is born.
- Adoption is free to you, while abortion involves medical costs. If you make an adoption plan for your baby, not only will your legal, medical, counseling and other adoption-related costs be covered for you, but you can also receive additional funds during your pregnancy to cover living expenses like rent, utilities, groceries, clothing, transportation, and more. Abortion, on the other hand, can cost between $500 and $2,000, depending on a number of factors — and sometimes more, if there are complications that require additional medical care.
- Adoption is always an option, while abortion is time-sensitive. You can begin the adoption process at any point in your pregnancy, whether you just found out you are pregnant or you are days away from delivering. Even if your baby has already been born, it is never too late to choose adoption. However, abortion is more time-sensitive. Most abortions are completed during the first trimester, and waiting until later in your pregnancy may complicate the process and increase your medical risks. This means that if you want to have an abortion, you have to make that decision very early in your pregnancy. In addition, your abortion decision is final as soon as you have taken the medication or undergone the procedure. With adoption, you can change or discontinue your adoption plan at any time during your pregnancy or even after your baby is born — your adoption decision is not permanent until you sign the legal paperwork after your baby’s birth.
- Adoption provides lifelong relationships, while abortion has a lifelong emotional impact. Adoption and abortion can both have lasting emotional effects. However, women who choose adoption may be better able to cope and process these difficult emotions by maintaining a relationship with their child after the adoption. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, you will have the option of developing a lifelong relationship with your child and his or her adoptive parents through open or semi-open adoption. These adoption arrangements provide you with picture and letter updates, phone calls, emails, and even in-person visits throughout your child’s life, so you will always know that your child is happy, healthy and well-adjusted. These relationships are not available to women who choose abortion, and some women struggle with difficult feelings of depression or regret for years following the procedure.
Every woman’s circumstances are different, and women have many different reasons for choosing adoption or abortion. As a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy, you deserve to have all of the information available before making your adoption vs. abortion decision.
If you would like to learn more about your options, contact Kevin Kenney for free Kansas or Missouri adoption information. Your phone call is confidential and does not obligate you to proceed with adoption.