Questions to Ask Adoptive Parents

Questions to Ask Adoptive Parents

Starting the process of finding an adoptive family in Kansas City? Kevin Kenney can help you find the perfect prospective adoptive parents based on how you envision your adoption process, how much contact you want to maintain with the family after the adoption and more.

To begin, you’ll first have to ask yourself a few questions about the kind of adoption you want for your child. Consider:

  • Do I want my baby to be an adoptive couple’s first child, or do I want my baby to have older siblings?
  • Where in the U.S. do I want the adoptive family to live?
  • What kind of neighborhood do I picture the adoptive family living in? Urban, suburban or rural?
  • Do I want family pets to be part of my baby’s childhood?
  • Do I have a preference about the adoptive family’s religion?
  • How much contact do I want to have with the family after the adoption and what kind?

Your decisions about your adoption plan will help Kevin Kenney and the other adoption professionals he partners with to match you with potential adoptive families who have the same adoption vision as you do.

Once you have some prospective adoptive parents to consider, you’ll be able to speak with them on the phone under the guidance of an adoption professional.

What To Ask Adoptive Parents the First Time You Speak

At first, you may want to ask some basic questions to get to know them and break the ice. Here are a few sample questions to ask adoptive parents:

  • Do you play or follow any sports?
  • What do you like to do for fun?
  • What’s your ideal day off from work?
  • Who’s your favorite actor/actress?
  • What’s your favorite guilty pleasure TV show?
  • Do you have any pets?
  • What’s your favorite thing about each other?
  • When did you first know that you were in love with the other?

As you and the adoptive parents become more comfortable with each other, you can also start considering interview questions to ask adoptive parents about the adoption. When talking with adoptive parents, consider asking:

  • What experiences are you most excited to share with your child?
  • What kind of contact do you hope to have after the adoption?
  • How do you plan to talk about adoption with your child?
  • When did you know that adoption was right for you?
  • What kind of family events would your child be a part of?
  • What values do you hope to instill in your child?

There are a few things that you should avoid when talking with adoptive parents. Here are three biggest questions not to ask adoptive parents:

  1. Questions about specific details regarding the adoption
    This might sound like you’re promising them that you’ve made your decision about them adopting your baby. Just focus on getting to know them at this stage of the adoption process.
  1. Questions about infertility
    Assuming that a prospective adoptive couple is unable to have biological children may be inaccurate or hurtful. Many couples who are planning to adopt have struggled emotionally with fertility for years, and the subject is still painful for them. Other couples may not have fertility issues; they simply prefer to create a family through adoption. Either way, the topic should be avoided unless they bring it up.
  1. Questions about money
    It’s generally not appropriate to bring up finances when planning adoption questions to ask the adoptive parents. Money issues should instead be discussed with Kevin or with your adoption agency specialist. They can ask any questions you might have about finances on your behalf.

You probably have tons of questions to ask potential adoptive parents in Kansas City, as well as questions about the adoption process. You can call Kevin for the adoption information you need at 913-671-8008.