If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and know that termination isn’t an option for you, you’re left with two alternative options to abortion: parenting and adoption. But deciding which one is the best option for you may not be an easy choice.
The decision you make will affect the rest of your life, and you will have to determine which one is the right option for you. It’s important to be as educated as possible before making this decision, which is why Kevin Kenney has laid out some of the things you need to consider about the alternatives for abortion in Kansas City.
Kevin knows that not every situation is the same, so he may be able to refer you to local resources and counseling to help you make your decision, no matter which abortion alternative you’re considering.
To start, here are some things you need to consider about parenting and adoption:
Perhaps one of the most important things to consider when you’re debating between your two alternatives to abortion is your financial situation. You know parenting is expensive, but are you prepared financially to spend more than $245,000 over 18 years to raise your child?
On the other hand, adoption for a pregnant mother is completely free, and you may even receive financial support for your pregnancy-related expenses. Kevin Kenney can work with you and the adoptive family to make sure adoption isn’t a financial burden for you.
It’s important to understand the realities of your financial situation before you decide to parent or place your child for adoption. If the birth father isn’t in the picture, you should evaluate whether you can afford to raise a child on your own — and if that’s even something you want to do.
Choosing what to do with an unplanned pregnancy is difficult emotionally, but you will also experience intense feelings after you choose to parent or place your child for adoption.
Parenting can be equally stressful and rewarding, and while it may get a little easier as time goes on, there will always be unexpected surprises that can overwhelm you. It’s not uncommon for new mothers to experience some degree of postpartum depression, where they feel inadequate or emotionally exhausted with a new baby. While most parents feel that the sense of pride and love they have for their child makes up for the bad times, it’s unreasonable to choose parenting with the expectation that it will a happy experience all the time.
Choosing adoption also comes with its own emotional hurdles, most notably feelings of grief and loss after your baby has been placed with their adoptive family. Many women find it difficult to place their newborn baby with a family after being a part of their child’s life for nine months, and it can be a long process of emotional recovery. However, remember that you will have the option to receive updates with pictures of your child throughout their childhood, which some women find beneficial in the healing process.
How Your Life Will Change
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Once you have kids, your life is over.” That’s not entirely true, but whatever plans you have for your life will have to change to accommodate your new child.
When you choose to parent, your first priority becomes your child: making sure they’re happy, healthy and well cared for. Your plans to advance your career or continue your education may need to be put on pause in the best interest of your child. Raising a child is an adventure every step of the way, one that you can’t anticipate and plan from stage to stage. Before you parent your child, you should be comfortable with your decision to put your own dreams on hold.
Adoption, on the other hand, allows you to continue to strive for whatever goals you have for your life. By placing your child with an adoptive family, you do not have to sacrifice your own ambitions, and many adoptive families enjoy giving you the opportunity to pursue your dreams.
These are just a few of the things you should consider before making a decision between your alternative options to abortion in Kansas City. At the end of the day, you’re the only one who can decide what’s right for you and your unborn baby — we just want to help.
If you’re interested in adoption as an alternative to abortion, or if you just have more questions about how the adoption process works, you can contact Kevin Kenney for free and with no obligation at 913-671-8008.